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Appreciate Contrast

Lately I have been pondering on the idea of contrast. For instance, good and bad or fortunate and unfortunate or chaos and order. With that said, I’ve learned that life presents contrast for us to appreciate change. There is great power in familiarizing, learning from, and appreciating the contrasting phases of our lives. In short, we wouldn’t know good without bad or fortune without misfortune or order without chaos. It’s also fair to say that one can’t acknowledge these contrasting phases without experiencing them for themselves (familiarization).

This generation promotes an unrealistic expectation of happiness. Everyone is supposed to feel good or be happy, don’t worry- but that’s not the case. Many tend to negate feelings of anxiety, sadness, and depression to uphold the standard that you should always be positive. However, I encourage my readers to feel every emotion, even those that are deemed as 'negative'. Give yourself permission to appreciate the contrast. Familiarize yourself with your emotions because that’s what makes us human! To that point, I didn’t know what it felt like to win until I lost.

Between the ages of 13 and 16 I experienced great adversity. One example was my parents divorce, which created a huge familial dynamic shift; leaving me feeling confused and disappointed. As I reflect, those losses taught me how to win. I learned how to embrace change and understood adversity to be a vehicle to enhance or mature character. Nevertheless, please note that God rains on the just and the unjust. WE are not exempt from adversity, but we would never appreciate the good times without the bad ones too.


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