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Lookie Loo Is Quite Confused

I’m sure you’ve heard the phrases “you’re never fully dressed without a smile” and “dress to impress” or “when you look good, you feel good.” Although these phrases about appearance are relatively true, they are also flawed. Our appearance is not a proper scale to measure personal wellness.

A phrase I believe is most accurate when considering appearance is “I don’t look like what I’ve been through.”

According to Merriam-Webster, a Lookie Loo is “an intrusively curious onlooker.” Synonyms for Lookie Loo include, but aren’t limited to: noisy, meddler, busybody.

If we don’t pause and look beyond the surface, we’ll continue to perpetuate a culture of suffering in silence. We’ve allowed the superficial to become a determinate for whether or not we check-in, notify, or support each other.

For example, just because your cousin is able to manage her children after her emotionally intense divorce, doesn’t mean she isn’t struggling with this ‘new’ normal. Just because your friend grew-up in an affluent family doesn’t mean their battle with mental illness, at times, gets the best of them.

Afterwhile, one becomes a Lookie Loo in the lives of those who should serve, support, and study.

Words of Wisdom by Char of the Week: Don’t be a spectator is the lives of those who need your brilliance. Step-up, stand-out, and speak-up. Don’t allow the superficial to be the reason you don’t participate in bettering the lives of others. John 7:24



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